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This exercise will help you see the gap between the identity that has been running your life and the identity that is ready to lead your next chapter. Take your time, be honest, and be specific, the quality of your answers matters more than how impressive they sound.

Before you begin:

Draw two triangles, one for your old identity and one for your new identity. Label the three corners:

• Top: Outcome
• Bottom Left: Output
• Bottom Right: Operating Field

Section 1: Old Identity

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Prompt:

Name the version of you that keeps you stuck.

Example:

Catastrophe Carter

On your first triangle, write this name in the centre and use the prompts below to fill in each corner.

Triangle prompts:

• Top / Outcome: What does this version want?
• Bottom Left / Output: What does this version do, not do, or avoid?
• Bottom Right / Operating Field: What fears, stories, emotions, or beliefs drive this version? </aside>

Your Old Identity

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• Name:
• Top / Outcome:
• Bottom Left / Output:
• Bottom Right / Operating Field: </aside>

Section 2: Your New Identity

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Prompt:

Name the version of you you are becoming.

Example:

Alive Olly

Village Olly

On your second triangle, write this name in the centre and use the prompts below to fill in each corner.

• Top / Outcome: What does this version want? What is he becoming?
• Bottom Left / Output: What does this version do, not do, or avoid?
• Bottom Right / Operating Field: What beliefs, emotions, or states drive this version? </aside>

Your New Identity

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• Name:
• Top / Outcome:
• Bottom Left / Output:
• Bottom Right / Operating Field: </aside>

Section 3: The Mismatch

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Prompt:

Now compare both triangles and identify the biggest gap between the old version and the new one.

Be honest about where the tension is. This is where clarity begins.

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Your Mismatch

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• Biggest mismatch:
• What still needs to change:
• What the new version would do this week: </aside>

Section 4: Your Bold Action